A few days ago, I was driving home with the kids and we saw a group of guys pushing a broken down car just across the road. The girls have never experienced this and they wanted to know what was happening.
I explained what was going on but Princess T wanted us to stop and help, she pleaded with me and reminded me I always say we should be helpful….hahahaa! Of course, I refused.
I gave her several reasons why we couldn’t. Firstly, they were only pushing the car out of the way and they would call their insurance company to pick up the car. Secondly, there were enough guys and they didn’t need us. I’ve spent some time reflecting on that incident.
- You can’t help everyone
I can actually hear my friends laughing whilst reading this post and calling me a hypocrite…hahaha….but I’m learning and growing.
Being an empath, I’ve spent most part of my adult life thinking and trying to help everyone I can. Take it from me, this is the easiest path to frustration and disappointment .
If like me, you easily carry the burden of others, you need the wisdom and help of the Holy Spirit to recognize and accept your boundaries and limitations. Else, you will keep stretching yourself thin till you break apart.
You cannot fix the world, you cannot fix everyone and everything, you can only do so much at a time.
- Help as many as you can
Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as ever you can
John Wesley
The help we give can be love, a listening ear, a cup of coffee to encourage a friend, encouragement or just holding someone’s hands.
The opportunity to help presents itself daily in different forms and only those looking for it, find it.
Help as many as you can when you can but never forget you cannot help everyone.
- Focus on your own assignment
Imagine if I pulled over and left my kids in the car to engage with those guys? You would think it’s ridiculous right? That’s because it is not my own assignment (simply put-not my business).
Let me tell you another story. A few months ago, Dr O and I were just around the corner from our house after a long drive and saw two ambulances in front of a shop. There was a crowd and we noticed people appeared distressed.
Usually, they don’t need your help but we both knew we could be of help and offer support so we pulled over.
This is an example of recognizing your own assignment and where you are equipped to help. (I’m a doctor and not a mechanic).
Not everyone is your assignment, face your own lane, do and give what you are equipped with.
- How are you helping yourself?
You can be helping many people, but if you are not helping yourself, you have missed the one person you were born to heal.
Alan Cohen
It is easy to focus on others and forget/ignore your own needs. How are you helping and supporting yourself? Are you looking after others more than you are looking after yourself?
If your answer is yes, then you are in good company. I used to be just like that and it has taken so much for me to accept I need my own love and care too. You can also learn it, it is a beautiful journey.
We are only able to give our best to others after giving to ourselves.
Have a lovely weekend guys and don’t forget to share this post. I leave you with peace of God!
I think this message was directed to me. Thank you dr
We are all in the same boat!!! Good one!
I have taken notes too. Help as many as you can ,as long as you can ,during the times you can as long as you can but in helping others help yourself.
But why are you shouting tho? It’s good that you recognise yourself when you wrote this post. As a fellow empath sha, let’s hope people do as we say not as we do.
Everyday in every way we are getting better and better. xxxx