Can things just remain as they used to be??

Hi everyone! It has been a while since our last blog post. I hope you have been doing well and winning in life as always.

A few days ago, I was thinking about the recent changes we’ve gone through as a family and with everything opening up (post series of lockdowns), a lot of us are having to deal with the unwanted effects of changes.

I’ve been reflecting on my perception of change and honestly, I’m one of those people that would rather things remained the same than go through the hurdle of accepting it. And that’s the comfort zone, nothing grows in the comfort zone.

As we always say, everything we are and everything we do was learnt, there is nothing we cannot unlearn.

• We are holding on to the past

Just like me, a lot of us struggle to let go of the past. This is not always bad, afterall; we have beautiful memories and people that we love there.

But what if the past we are holding on to is not of good memories? What if this past is of pain, hurt, betrayal, disappointment, dashed hopes and dreams?

Pardon me if I try to make it sound simpler than it is in reality but absolutely nothing positive comes from holding on to the negative past.Just like clenching a sharp knife in your hands will cause you to continue to bleed, holding on to the past will continue to hurt.

I think the first step to freedom is acknowledging there is no benefit in holding on to a negative past.

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past

Isaiah 43 v 18

• Holding on to ‘how things should be’

From childhood, we have built layers upon layers of expectations and dreams daily, thankfully they were mostly good (I don’t think most people plan for bad occurences). Most children have dreams of what growing up would be like, owning their own first cars, what marriage would be like etc

For most of us, it has turned out either better or the contrary, very rarely is life as you pictured it would be.

Do you ever challenge your expectations? Many of us are not enjoying the gift life has for us today because the package isn’t what we expected.

It took several years to develop these expectations and removing them layer by layer will also take some time and commitment , it’s never a day’s job.

What dream/expectation is holding you back from enjoying the life and days God has given you? It will be a good idea to probably write them down, write down how it affects your present life and start to plan how to change/improve this.

• Allow your dreams and expectations to evolve

About 15years ago, there was a certain Volkswagen car that was my dream car and I always said I was going to own the car. Well, let’s just say if I wanted it now, I’d have to go find it in a museum somewhere…hahaha

Can you now imagine if I’m unhappy or not satisfied now because I don’t drive that particular car? Does that sound ridiculous? This is similar to how a lot of us have not allowed our dreams to evolve.

As you grow, you do not need to let your dreams die, give your dreams the permission to evolve.

• Give it to God one day at a time

So what do we do about the past dreams, life, hurt or even joy that is holding us back from enjoying the realities of today? I would say Give it to God, He is the keeper and giver of dreams.

For every good dream that has died, He is able to give a better one. For every marriage, relationship, career that has died, He is able to give a better one. It might not be overnight but layer by layer, give it to him.

If there is anything Covid has taught us all, it is that anything can change and there is always more than one way to do the same thing.

I will like your comments and contributions. As I always say, I’m a learner just like everyone else. Please share the link with your friends and family.

I leave you with the peace of God!

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